I consistently see those who attack us personally for daring to exist cry “they were rude to me!” when engaging in discussion or debate with atheists who are fed up with their bigotry. Cry me a river. Not everyone deserves respect. In civil society you receive the same level of respect you offer to others. Those who simply disagree with our rejection of god belief and religion and who want to defend their beliefs by engaging in rational, intelligent discourse should be free to do such without attacks and insults. We should attack the claims and positions, not the people. Anti-atheist bigots, on the other hand, deserve no such courtesy. They start from a position of complete lack of respect and civility.
Do people respectfully respond to racists? Generally, they don’t. They are attacked and called what they are – racists. Religious bigots of any sort deserve no different treatment. It’s clear who has the ethical authority here. We attack religion and the concept of faith, while they attack us directly. They call us immoral, bad people, tell us we will burn in eternal hellfire, not due to our actions, but because have happen to not believe in something they do. They express such bigotry through mean-spirited, disingenuous personal attacks on us – attacking us not for our characters and actions but for what we don’t believe. They do not deserve civil discourse. We are simply judging them by their actions which they rationalize with their religion.
Of course, we should be careful to not overdo it and see bigotry or discrimination where it doesn’t exist, such as a group in the opposition, the Catholic League. Unlike them, though, we actually experience major bigotry and discrimination in the United States. Not all religious folks are bigots, and they deserve as much respect as anyone else making an argument. If they are meritless the arguments should be attacked, but not the people. Bigots will not get such courtesy here, and should not anywhere. They come into the discourse with nothing but personal attacks, and should be treated in kind. If they want to be treated with respect, they should be focusing on how they treat others first.
No group fighting for their civil rights has ever preserved them by being nice to and pacifying their most vocal opponents. This simply gives them more power. We need to take a hint from all the great rights movements, such as the black civil rights movement, gay rights movement, and women’s suffrage movement, just to name a few. Are bigots the type of people we should concern ourselves with showing niceness towards? We need to concentrate our efforts towards those who are important: the progressively religious and the nonreligious who are passive and hide their views.
Are you worried about such rudeness being used against us (”See? Look at the angry militant atheists!”)? Don’t respond at all, then. Religious bigots make themselves look bad all on their own.